Do you sometimes feel panicked and personally responsible when someone expresses difficult feelings to you?

Do you ever watch your mood completely tank in the presence of someone else’s anxiety or negativity? Or maybe struggle to draw the line between caring about someone and feeling you have to “save” “rescue” or “fix” them? Do you feel like you lose touch with your own voice when somebody else expresses a strong opinion? 

Leaning on each other is natural, and being responsive to each other’s feelings is important and healthy. But sometimes our responsiveness and caring can tip toward care-taking, people-pleasing, and ultimately: codependency.

Codependency—taking on other people’s experiences as our own and letting them determine our mood, outlook, purpose, identity or worth—is a very common habit.

Here are some of the common side effects of codependency:

• Being heavily influenced by others’ moods, judgments and beliefs, and feeling ungrounded and disconnected from yourself as a result

• Compulsive attempts at mindreading others

• Fragile self-worth as a result of relying heavily on external validation from others

• Self-abandoning and people-pleasing in relationships to keep things copacetic

• Chronically compromising, ignoring, or denying your needs, then feeling resentment or blame when others don’t intuitively meet them

• Trouble differentiating between someone else’s experience and your own, especially when emotional intensity is involved

• Taking on the “rescuer” or “fixer” role in relationships; often feeling you give more than you receive in your connections

• Having surface-level relationships that struggle to withstand disagreement or conflict, and lack authenticity and true emotional intimacy

Codependency is a coping pattern.

If you resonated with the list above, go easy on yourself—codependency is not an illness or a personality flaw. It’s a set of unconscious coping skills we internalized and mastered out of necessity very early in our lives, probably without even realizing it.

Having codependent patterns is frustrating, there’s no doubt. But it’s not your fault. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. And it’s certainly not a life sentence!

Overcoming codependency is absolutely possible.

With the right guidance and support, we can compassionately unlearn and outgrow our codependent patterns. I can’t wait to share with you the tools, concepts and practices that have helped me (and my clients) truly transform codependent patterns at their root, and cultivate grounded authenticity in relationship.

Start your healing journey now!

Join us for this free 1-hour workshop where we’ll be covering:

• What codependency is

• How to identify it in yourself

• Some common beliefs that often drive our codependency

• Concepts to support you in developing emotional autonomy and staying true to who you are (without emotionally disconnecting)

• Ideas for steps you might take to continue your codependency healing journey

I’m Erin—Empowerment Coach and creator of the Overcoming Codependency Program.

As a highly sensitive empath who grew up mastering the art of care-taking, rescuing, and emotionally merging with others, I have a lot of understanding for how tough it can be to reckon with these ingrained patterns and try to shift them as an adult.

I’m passionate about sharing the tools and practices that truly help us heal our codependency (not just emotionally cut off from others). My approach has been life-changing for countless clients and students of mine, and I can’t wait to share it with you!

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Tuesday March 29, 5:00-6:00PM Pacific Time
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