We all feel shame sometimes—the experience of believing we’re bad, wrong, unworthy, broken or somehow not enough.

Shame is a powerful emotion. It makes us feel separate, other, isolated and less than.

It leads us to tell ourselves stories of our own unworthiness on repeat: “I’m not enough.” “There’s something wrong with me.” “I’m uniquely bad.” “It’s all my fault.”

Shame shows up differently and to varying degrees for each of us, but it is universal. And no matter how our shame expresses, there’s always one common ingredient: suffering.

Here are some of the ways we often attempt to cope with unhealed shame:

• Perfectionism and controlling behavior

• Obsession with ‘fixing’ personal flaws, often reaching for unattainable expectations

• Seeking personal worth via others: people-pleasing, codependency, boundary issues

• Judgment, blame, gossip or revenge fantasies

• Workaholism, overachieving and status-seeking

• Exaggerated modesty and self-deprecating comments

Shame is painful.

It can be pretty intense! When we fall into shame, it spirals us downward in what can feel like an endless and inescapable tunnel of pain. Shame hurts, and that hurt often drives us to treat ourselves and others badly. And somehow, the whole time, shame has us convinced we’re so “bad” at our core that we “deserve” to suffer.

Shame blocks us from what we desire most.

Shame is a self-protection device designed to close us off from vulnerability, pain and rejection—but in the process, it also closes us off from many of our most important needs: things like connection, belonging and authenticity. In addition to being downright uncomfortable, shame is also one of the greatest obstacles to building and experiencing the life we truly desire.

We are capable of healing our shame.

The shame we experience isn’t our fault, and it’s not a life sentence. Most of our shame is inherited from unhelpful cultural and familial norms, and false belief systems we unconsciously internalized. We can’t always control when or why we feel shame, but we can learn to compassionately work through and heal our shame when it comes up. 

Shame doesn’t have to run the show.

You have the power to step into the truth of who you are, and shed the shame-based beliefs that convince you to hide and cope your way through life. You get to decide the extent to which shame shapes who you are and how you live. You deserve to be radiantly self-accepting and unapologetically free. If you’re ready to lovingly transform your shame and reconnect to your wholeness, you’ve come to the right place.

I’m Erin—Empowerment Coach, creator of the Shame Liberation Program and former chronic shame-spiraler.

As a sensitive soul who unknowingly internalized a lot of negative stories about myself growing up, I’ve had quite a journey with healing shame! This work is challenging and vulnerable, but in my experience, also incredibly liberating.

I’m passionate about sharing the tools and practices that truly help us heal our shame at the root (not just band-aid it). My approach has been life-changing for countless clients and students of mine, and I can’t wait to share it with you!

Let me show you a different way.

Come join my free 1-hour workshop where I’ll teach you how shame operates, how to identify it in your life, and some simple tools to help you start compassionately transforming it in your day-to-day.

You can register below—

Free Shame Healing Workshop
Wednesday January 5th, 5:00-6:00PM PST

If you can’t make it, sign up anyway and I’ll send you the replay!

This workshop has ended. Watch the replay here.